A (very short) Lesson in Humility

I am very competitive.

I usually try to mask this fact by being a generous loser and not gloating when I do win.  Truthfully though, I hate to lose and I love to win.  Well, I've learned that God has a sense of humor about that kind of thing and so, of course, my husband is naturally an expert at any game he plays.

I am truly amazed at how brilliant of a strategist My Mr. is, somehow his mind is always able to think two, five, or even twenty steps ahead of me and pretty much everyone he plays with.  In fact, most of his family refuses to play games of strategy with him because they're so tired of losing.  Well, then I come along with my passive aggressive competitive drive thinking, "I pretty much win all the time against my family!  Yay!  A challenge!"

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And then a lesson on humility for probably the rest of my gaming career... or for the rest of my life, whichever comes first.  

For the (almost) two years My Mr. and I have been gaming together he's beaten me most of the time.  It depends somewhat on what game we're playing, but for the most part he wins, and I'm learning to be okay with that.  In fact, I still enjoy playing whatever it is we play just because I'm hanging out with him.  I'm learning to lose and to be ok with it; here I am thinking about how much I've grown and how nice it is to not care so much about winning.

Then we started playing Dominion.

I'm basically in love with this game.

We got it on Wednesday and we've already played it so much the cards look worn.  We play while having breakfast, we play while watching a movie, we play if he has an hour free before work... seriously, this is what we do with games!

Anyways, I cannot win.  I've won twice in all the times we've played and both times were just barely a win (I think 7 pts ahead is my record right now).  When he wins he doesn't just win, he stomps me; it's not even a close game.  And it was ok.  You know, I've learned how to lose.  It makes me try harder next time and such, whatever. 

Today, he mercilessly, horribly, brutally creamed me. 

Needless to say there were some words after the game was finally over, then there were some apologies from both sides, and then we agreed to play again when he gets home.

And he agreed not to use that card combination on me again, thank goodness!

Such is the life of a gaming couple.  You play, you bicker, you make up, and you play again.

Kajo

Ever After

Yesterday My Mr. and I celebrated our six months of bliss.  Six months ago we stood together in my parents wooded back yard on top of Serenity Hill.  Surrounded by friends and family we said our vows with cracking voices and happy tears.  We kissed as man and wife just as the first rays of the sunset burst through the dappled leaves and lit the green forest with yellow brilliance. 

Truthfully, I don't remember much past that, just flashes here and there.  Mostly I remember laughter and music.  It was chilly, but I was so excited I hardly noticed.  There was dancing and cake, and a clambering bustle of happy faces.  I remember an absolute fog of unending bird seed, and then it was quiet and we were driving away down the long winding hill, marveling at how fast the night had passed.

Since then I've become more and more convinced that no two people more suited for one another than the two of us.  We have our flaws.  We fight, not often, but we do.  We fail each other and hurt one another, but we are so much more than our flaws.  He is my best friend, my favorite companion, the love of my whole life. 

Sometimes we spend our nights talking beside the fire about how much fun it would be to travel the world.  Sometimes we pull out board games, or play League of Legends late into the night.

We love to laugh together and we're there for each other when we're hurting.  We build each other up and push each other to grow.  We strive to understand that we're different people and we function differently so we'll sometimes do things that the other doesn't understand.  We're man and woman.  We're fundamentally different and it's often a struggle to figure each other out, so we try to be very plain with each other when expressing ourselves.  Sometimes we simply say, "I don't know why I'm upset, but I am," and then we talk about it. 

I love married life.  I know it won't always be easy.  We'll have hardships and trials, but we've got each other and we have a gracious, loving God.

Hallelujah for six months of bliss! :)

Kajo

 

Something Wicked This Way Comes...

I'm pleased to FINALLY announce that the Lovecraftian Cloches I've been working on this winter are finally going up in the shop today! :) Hooray!

Here's a sneak peak at what will be in the shop later this evening:

Darkness Comes - Lovecraftian Cloche - $30.00

Misty Doom - Lovecraftian Cloche - $30.00



From the Depths - Lovecraftian Cloche - $30.00




Well, that's all for now!  Look for these lovelies and more at: www.kbspaddywacks.etsy.com

Kajo